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Date Yourself


Why? Because you’re hella cute and totally charming, and you give THE BEST hugs. Seriously.


This post is going to chat about something that I’ve been working on for about three years now.


Let me preface this by saying that I’m in a committed relationship. I’ve been with my wife, Meg, for almost 4 years of marriage. In total our relationship has spanned nearly 12 years.

I adore Meg and our marriage is near my definition of perfection.

Although Meg loves me with all her heart and soul, I just can't say the same. I still don't like myself some days, never mind love.


Most of my time is taken up trying to be a million different things for other people. A friend, a lover and wife, a sister, a daughter, a student, a coach…the list goes on and on.


I get so bogged down that I forget to make time for myself. I don't know that I do anything for myself, not really. I am all about service, and being useful, and helping other people. Thanks trauma.



And... I don’t know about you, but I HATE feeling like I hate myself. It’s a shitty-ass way to feel.


So, I started to date myself. You know all those cute little things you do for your significant other when you start dating? The cute texts throughout the day, the love notes, the little gifts to show you’re thinking about them, the planning out dates and getting all excited when thinking of spending time with them?



Yeah, all that, aimed right here.


I leave myself sticky notes telling me how cute I am, how brilliant I am, how my booty is AMAZZZING.


Pre-COVID times I would try to take myself out on a date, once a week – just doing something by myself, for myself.


If I weren’t trying to declutter my home I’d be buying myself small little trinkets here and there because I’m worth it!


So, my plums, try dating yourself. Write yourself love notes in your journal, take yourself out on a date - try a virtual museum tour(!), buy the cute thing in the store when you can.


You’re worth it.



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